Monday

Lady Who Lunches

I love to eat lunch with friends. I used to lament over the fact that by working, I never get to go out to eat with my non-working friends. Then I realized that yeah, I may not be eating yummy food. But, I am eating outside of home and with some ladies who I truly enjoy their company. My partners in crime, my co workers. We vent, we talk, we laugh, and sometimes we cry. It just never lasts nearly long enough!

I do still get together for lunch with the friends I first met when we moved here. Moving to a new place is one of the hardest and scariest things I've done. Once you are an adult, it's hard to make friends. I was a stay at home mom with two very young kids. It was quite lonely. Then Lamb started school.

Her best friend was a demanding sort of girl and she always demanded to her mom that Lamb be invited over. They also used to go to the parks. By these invitations, her mom & I became good friends. Then, the following year, we met another mom.

We would hang out waiting for the bell to let the kids out of school and talk. Then, slowly, the kids started to move on to the next level of their education. First, the twin daughters. Then, Lamb and the daughter of one friend and the son of the other. Bear was next to move on. Now, there is only the youngest son of my friend left.

While one of the ladies and I keep in better contact with each other, the moms have also moved on. The three of us didn't all have kids at the school anymore. I started working full time at the school. One friend started working full time at a library. The kaleidoscope turned.

Even though the three of us don't have that daily connection (& except for Lamb and one of the boys, the kids aren't friends with each other), we try to get together for lunch at least once a season on the weekends. Our families know not to expect us for hours. We met just a couple of weekends ago and sat in the restaurant for 3 hours. We couldn't believe how fast time flew while we sat there and caught up with each other.

I wish we could see each other more often. But, I am thankful that we make time for each other when we can. And I am thankful for the two of them!

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh D! Your post made me tear up! Our kids really are growing up fast, aren't they? It's amazing how fast time goes by. I'm soooo thankful for our lunches too! Times may be changing, but I hope our friendship will always be strong.

Lisa

Debbie said...

What a sweet post. Why do we, as women, take so little time for ourselves? I'm happy you get to see these folks at least occasionally.

Misty Dawn said...

It is a great thing that you DO still find a little bit of time to hang out. I know what it's like to be an adult and move to a new state... oh boy do I know.

Forgetfulone said...

And I hope you get to add ME to that list of friends! Maybe one day, our kids will meet, perhaps in high school, even though they'll be in different grades.

Patois said...

How lucky that you can still get together and have that time.

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